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THE PESSIMIST - OPTIMIST TEST

 

Are you more optimistic or pessimistic in your parenting style and approach to life?  While most people are

a combination of both, some lean predominantly to one side or the other. 

 

Read through each column, and give yourself one point for each of the qualities that apply to you in either column.  The rating scale is at the bottom of the page.

 

 

THE PESSIMIST

THE OPTIMIST

 

Missing healthy role models

 

Focus on faults & weaknesses

 

Poor self-regard

 

Assumes the worst

 

Avoids unpleasant issues

 

Complains often

 

Criticizes and puts down

 

Curt or rude to authorities

 

Closed with a guarded heart

 

Sacastic, bitter or cynical

 

Shuns being of service

 

Gives up easily when it gets rough

 

Isolates out of pain or protection

 

Withholds feelings; shut-down

 

Bluntly honest without kindness

 

Mistrusts people and their motives

 

Competes and wants to be the best

 

Focuses on what's missing

 

Fears and avoids the unknown

 

Prone to depression

 

Harbors anger and resentment

 

Little or no moral reflection

 

Poor daily self-care

 

Prone to addictions

 

Lethargic and lackluster

 

Difficult & draining

 

Careless or reckless

 

Low achiever

 

Poor self-discipline

 

Negative attitude about the future

 

TOTAL SCORE

 

Has one or more healthy role-models

 

Self-corrects and develops strengths

 

Strong self-respect

 

Looks for the best

 

Gets to the issue seeking resolve

 

Co-operates often

 

Acknowledges and builds others up

 

Respectful or polite to authorities

 

Open with a warm heart

 

Humorous, clever and fun

 

Contributes to the lives of others

 

Keeps going with persistence

 

Stays connected to others

 

Expresses feelings; vulnerable

 

Considerately honest with kindness

 

Open to learn of others' motives

 

Competes with one's personal best

 

Focuses on what's working

 

Explores and seeks the unknown

 

Good mental health

 

Moves through anger and progresses

 

Aspires to strong and clear values

 

Good daily self-care

 

Avoids substance abuse

 

Ambitious and motivated

 

Energizing & interesting

 

Strong in character & liable

 

Motivated achiever

 

Strong self-discipline

 

Positive attitude about the future

 

TOTAL SCORE

 

TOTAL

TOTAL


8 or Less: Mildly Pessimistic
9-16: Moderately Pessimistic
17-24: Highly Pessimistic
25 and up: Off the Charts

 

8 or Less: Mildly Optimistic
9-16: Moderately Optimistic
17-24: Highly Optimistic
25 and up:  Extraordinary

 

If your score indicates you are optimistic, congratulations!  Keep up your affirmative approach to life.  You are most likely a role model in your child's life and a positive influence to many.  If your score indicates that you are pessimistic, you may want to consider it an invitation to change.

 

You can read chapter 11 in my book "What All Children Want Their Parents to Know" to enhance your strengths and further your skills.  In this chapter I share 5 ways for you to develop healthy optimism and five ways for you to stomp out pessimism. 

 

From the book, What All Children Want Their Parents to Know: 12 Keys to Raising a Happy Child

by Diana Loomans & Julia Godoy (c) 2005 New World Library

 

Click here to read more about Diana's book, "What All Children Want Their Parents to Know"

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